A word of advice...and I mean it as kind as possible. I am in no way pointing fingers or trying to be insulting or anything. Please read this ENTIRE post before you decide to respond, you might miss the whole point otherwise and think I am being judgmental or rude. I am not.
I have made some of the same mistake I am about to talk about in the past....but experience has taught me much. And I'd like to help others to not make the same, hurtful mistakes.
Pregnancy is hard. Duh.
Motherhood is hard. Also duh.
But here's the thing. People need to stop being so negative and complaining about it in harsh ways. I understand the need to vent...totally understand, I don't very often vent, but more often than not I really need to...here's the key though. Present it thoughtfully, respectfully, or with humor. Otherwise you might be really hurting people who are already hurting.
What do I mean? Are you thinking I'm just crazy?
Well, I have a friend who can't have children. She would make a fabulous mother. She is so kind, beautiful, and sweet and wants children so much, but can't have them. It just breaks my heart. What makes my heart ache even more is where I see on facebook or blogs people complaining about being pregnant or about their children. Oh, that just hurts my soul. And what about those who have or are suffering miscarriage? Or months and months of trying for a baby? And I don't mean all of the comments about children and pregnancy...I just mean certain ones phrased without thought.
Example (and I hear this all the time.) "I am sooooo done being pregnant." Yes, pregnancy is hard. I think everyone knows that. But do you know what? Some ladies would LOVE to be almost done with a pregnancy and about to have a baby any second, so just be glad you are able to be pregnant and have a baby. Why don't we try something like this instead... "I can't wait until this baby gets here!" See what I mean? Almost means the same thing but with a good twist. Doesn't hurt anyone. And instead brightens peoples day with the thought that a cute baby's birth is right around the corner.
Or those people who turn EVERY status into a "you're pregnant, aren't you?" status. Hey, what if that person can't get pregnant or is going through a miscarriage? Do you think that is really helpful or funny? If you look at miscarriage statistics...most people suffer at least one. So, let's think...before commenting and not make "you must be pregnant" jokes. Because most often people don't go around announcing miscarriages or months and months of trying to get pregnant....so you might not know how it will bother or make them sad :-(
And motherhood...oh so hard...I only have one child and it's hard, so I can't imagine having more children. Sometimes I see these status posts about people's children and it just makes me want to cry. Those poor children...their parents keep having kids and yet apparently (from what I gather at their status updates) hate being parents...wow, that makes a lot of sense. When really I think all it is is lack of thought before writing their status. I can't think of a good example, I really don't see this as often as pregnancy related ones, but I have seen a few in the past that just make me cringe. If someone read that who couldn't have kids, oh, I just can't imagine the pain that would cause them...knowing someone who seems to hate motherhood so much can have kids but they can't. Or if years down the road (with the addition of Facebook Timeline and all) your child reads that negative post? I doubt that's going to buoy them up or make them feel loved and wanted.
As I said earlier, I'm not perfect. But I think if you look at my facebook account 99% of my posts are positive and not negative--especially where motherhood or pregnancy is concerned. I really don't ever even think to post something derogatory, but on the few occasions I was in a bad mood or tired or felt like venting I thought it out first. My mom always says that more people will be drawn to you and like you if you lead a positive life (or a positive blog or facebook account in this case). So my point? I guess, be someone who spreads joy and positiveness on facebook, not someone who complains constantly and negatively about the blessings they are so lucky to have.
Ok, I'll get off my soap box now.
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